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A young Nigerian lady has stirred massive reactions on social media after boldly saying that in Igbo land, a woman is often considered a “wife material” based on how much suffering and pain she can endure — a belief she strongly disagrees with. Read Our Last Post: Sowore Announces October 20 Protest to Demand Nnamdi Kanu’s Release
In a viral video making the rounds on X (formerly Twitter), the lady shared her personal experience, comparing how her boyfriend was warmly treated by her own family with how she was treated when she visited his home.
According to her, when her boyfriend visited her parents, she and her mother prepared a delicious meal for him, while her father brought drinks to make him feel comfortable. She said he was treated “like a king.”
After he finished eating, she passed his plate to her younger siblings to wash, and together they helped tidy up the house, ensuring he felt truly welcome.
However, the story took a different turn when it was her turn to visit her boyfriend’s family.
She explained that upon arriving, his mother immediately asked her to go into the kitchen to cook for the entire family. After everyone ate, she was also instructed to wash all the plates used — including those of other family members.
The lady said she felt very uncomfortable and disrespected, wondering why she had to prove herself through suffering.
She said she later made up her mind to leave, sharing a bold caption that has since gone viral:
“I don go my house. When you’re ready to marry, carry your mama come beg me.”
Her statement quickly drew mixed reactions online. While some users praised her for standing up for herself, others accused her of being disrespectful to traditional customs and expectations in Igbo culture.
Many women in the comments, however, supported her, saying that love and respect should not come with unnecessary hardship or humiliation.
The lady concluded that if being a wife material means enduring pain and overwork, then she proudly admits that she is not one.
The video continues to trend, sparking conversations about modern relationships, cultural expectations, and the pressure on women to prove themselves worthy of marriage through suffering.
