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A 26-year-old married woman in Nigeria has sparked mixed emotions online after sharing her private struggle, seeking help for a problem many people hardly speak about openly.
The woman, who is also a mother of two children, said she is experiencing constant pain in her stomach because she has not had any intimacy with her husband for over five months. According to her, the pain started getting worse as the weeks passed, and she is not sure how to manage it any longer.
In a message she posted to a popular online community, the woman wrote, “I am a 26 years old married woman with two children. It has been five months since my husband travelled and he is not coming back anytime soon. I am already feeling pain in my stomach because of lack of sex. I am not ready to cheat on him. Please help. Is there any drug or natural remedy to stop the pain? I hardly sleep because I am the flexible type. Please help a sister.”
Her post quickly caught people’s attention, not just because of the sensitive nature of her message, but because she chose to be honest about what she is going through, despite knowing that many people may laugh or judge her.
While some people mocked her situation, saying she was simply exaggerating, others, especially married women, said they completely understood what she was feeling. Many explained that the pain she described could be a mixture of emotional stress, physical tension, and loneliness.
Some people even admitted they had felt something similar before, especially when they were away from their partner for long periods. One commenter wrote, “This is real. Many people may laugh, but if you are used to regular touch, staying without it for months can make your body act funny.”
Another married woman shared, “When my husband travelled for one year, I fell sick many times. I was always moody, I could not sleep well, and I used to feel cramps in my lower tummy. My doctor said it was tension. I did not cheat, but it was hard.”
Some health experts joined the conversation online, explaining that what the woman is feeling might not be as strange as it sounds. A medical doctor, reacting under a verified profile, said, “When a person is used to regular intimacy, the sudden withdrawal or absence can cause the body to react in different ways, especially if there is no other way to release built-up emotions and tension.”
He further said that though the feeling may seem like physical pain, it could be the body’s way of crying out due to emotional imbalance, stress, or even hormonal changes.
The doctor advised that instead of looking for drugs or herbal remedies right away, the woman should first try stress-relieving exercises like walking, yoga, or breathing techniques. He also mentioned that regular baths, reading books, sleeping early, and connecting with friends might help ease her emotional pain. If symptoms persist, she should consult a professional to rule out other health issues.
Many other women shared home remedies that worked for them when they found themselves in similar situations. Some said drinking warm water with honey every night helped them sleep better. Others suggested using essential oils or listening to soft music to relax the mind and body.
Some people, however, warned her against going for over-the-counter drugs without proper advice. One user replied, “Please do not take any drug because someone said it worked for them. Everyone’s body is different. What worked for one person might cause problems for another.”
Others begged the lady not to let the pain or loneliness push her into doing what she would regret later. “This will pass,” one woman wrote. “Your body is just responding to the sudden silence and distance. You are a strong woman for speaking up instead of cheating. That shows you love your husband. He will be proud of you.”
The post sparked wider discussion on social media about the silent struggles many married women face, especially when their husbands travel for work or other reasons. Some women said they had also felt invisible pain, not because of illness, but because they missed the touch, presence, and emotional support of their partners.
One user said, “People think women are made of stone. Many of us are hurting in silence because we do not want to be judged. This sister is brave for saying the truth. May God give her strength.”
A few men who saw the post also responded, saying they never imagined women could go through such pain from missing their partner. One man wrote, “We men think it is only us that suffer when our wives are away. This woman’s message has opened my eyes.”
Some people even suggested that long-distance couples should find safe and private ways to connect with each other, such as regular video calls, voice notes, and even sharing pictures, to help reduce the loneliness.
A relationship therapist also reacted, saying that emotional and physical touch is very important in marriage. “It is not only about the act itself,” she explained. “It is about closeness, bonding, and comfort. When this connection is lost for a long time, both partners may suffer in ways people do not understand.”
As the post continued to trend, more people came forward to share their stories. One lady said she felt like crying when she read the woman’s message because she thought she was the only one feeling such pain. Another said she had been struggling for three months now and had been too shy to tell anyone.
In the end, the woman who made the original post thanked everyone who showed her kindness. She said, “I did not post this to be funny. I was desperate. I am glad I am not alone. Thank you all for your support.”
This touching post reminds us that not all pain is seen on the outside. Sometimes, the strongest people are the ones who are suffering quietly, hiding their tears behind a brave face.
Married people, especially those in long-distance relationships, are advised to stay connected with their partners in every way possible. Talking regularly, sharing feelings, and even praying together can go a long way in reducing the effects of separation.
Everyone goes through lonely moments. But when there is love, understanding, and support, even the hardest times can be survived without losing oneself.
As of the time of writing this report, the woman says she has not started any medicine yet. She is following advice from some commenters who told her to relax, take care of herself, and wait patiently until her husband returns.
Her courage in sharing such a private story has touched many hearts. It is a reminder that it is okay to speak up, to ask for help, and to admit when one is not okay. Because sometimes, the biggest strength is being able to say, “I am hurting, but I do not want to do wrong. Please help me.”
