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An eight-month marriage is already on the rocks for a young woman who feels trapped in a union with a man she barely knew before their wedding. The couple, who never dated or met before their marriage, tied the knot under complicated circumstances, and now the wife is struggling to cope with her husband’s shocking hygiene habits.
The husband, a wealthy and successful car spare parts dealer, originally came to propose to the woman’s twin sister after a brief encounter while supervising a building project in their neighbourhood.
When her sister rejected him, the woman’s parents convinced her to marry him instead, citing his success and responsible demeanour. As twins, they believed he wouldn’t notice the switch, and to this day, he thinks he married the sister he met. The woman, unsure about her struggling boyfriend at the time, agreed, hoping for a good life with a seemingly good man.
But eight months into the marriage, she regrets her decision. “I feel like running away,” she confessed. Despite his wealth and caring nature, her husband’s dirty habits are driving her to despair. “I’m getting to know him in marriage, and it’s not easy,” she said. She discovered he left school early to start his business and has poor hygiene habits that clash with her expectations.
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Every day, he returns home sweaty and smelly, refusing to use perfumes because they make it hard for him to breathe. She’s bought expensive perfumes and even sprayed them on his ironed clothes, but he avoids wearing them. His dirty clothes pile up like a child’s, staining bed sheets with dirt from his unwashed feet. “He claps his legs twice and climbs on the bed without a proper bath,” she lamented. Her hands are peeling from constant washing, despite a new washing machine.
The worst issue is his refusal to flush the toilet after use. “It’s always me checking and cleaning it,” she said. He scatters dirty socks on her side of the bed, leaves shoes everywhere, and tosses wet towels on the floor, bed, or chairs instead of the hamper. The bathroom is a mess with soap spills and water, and he never lowers the toilet seat. His clothes hang on doors or furniture, not in the wardrobe. “I feel like his mother, not his wife,” she cried.
She’s begged him to change, but he insists he grew up this way and she should cope. He also refuses to hire a house help, citing his “traditional” beliefs against it. Exhausted from talking, she’s at her breaking point. “He’s sweet and ensures I lack nothing, but his dirty habits are too much. How do I cope, and will he ever change?” she asked.
What advice would you give this woman to handle her husband’s habits and save her young marriage?
