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A young woman is speaking up after years of unwanted attention, fear, and a recent violent encounter that led to a police case. Her story is one many people can relate to — saying “No” but not being heard, setting clear boundaries only for them to be ignored, and being made to feel unsafe in public and even at home. SEE HOW I AM BUILDING WEALTH ONLINE IN 2025 USING THE TWO ENGINE BUSINESS MODEL: A CLEAR STEP-BY-STEP GUIDE BY PRUDENT JOSHUA
She said everything started a few years ago when a man began pursuing her. From the very first moment, she explained to him that she was not interested in any romantic relationship with him. But he refused to listen.
He started sending her gifts — flowers, money through e-wallets, and other things. She returned everything. She felt it was important to be honest and clear, so she told him again that she did not have feelings for him and did not want a relationship. Even after she explained herself respectfully, he did not stop.
Instead, he went online and started posting things about women who reject men. He would write things like women always choose people who do not love them and ignore those who care. Then, he would tag her in these posts to make her feel bad. It was not just uncomfortable — it felt like punishment for saying “No.” She decided to block him everywhere.
At that time, she was already in a relationship with someone else. But unfortunately, that relationship ended when she discovered that her boyfriend was cheating. The man who had been disturbing her came back into her life and somehow found out about her heartbreak. Shockingly, he seemed to be happy that things went wrong for her. But even then, she told him again that she still did not want anything from him. He became angry and said he would not stop trying.
Things got worse one night at a party. They bumped into each other there. He tried to talk to her, but she moved away because of the noise and because he was speaking too close to her ear. He kept asking questions like “How are you?” and “Who are you with?” She already knew he was not a good person, so she ignored him.
She said he kept looking at her, and she started feeling unsafe. She even stopped drinking so that she could stay alert. Later, her new boyfriend arrived, and they left. But somehow, the man appeared again later that evening.
While her boyfriend went to the bathroom, she sat alone at their table. That was when the man came over again, sat in her boyfriend’s seat, and started talking. He asked, “So that is your boyfriend?” and continued by saying things like, “You like people with money. Maybe that is why you do not like me, because you think I do not have money.”
Then he began talking about showing her his payslip, trying to prove he had money. But she told him she was not interested. This made him even angrier. He began calling her names and raising his voice. Luckily, her boyfriend returned just in time. He asked what was happening, and she explained everything. Her boyfriend called the security men, who pushed the man out of the place. While being taken out, he threatened to deal with them.
That was not the end. The man waited for them outside. As they were leaving, he attacked her boyfriend. Thankfully, her boyfriend was strong enough to defend himself. People around came and separated them. After that, they took a taxi and went home.
Her boyfriend told her they needed to report the case to the police. At first, she did not want to. She was scared and did not want any more trouble. But her boyfriend insisted, saying they did not know what the man might do next. She agreed, and they opened a case. The man was arrested and is now in police custody.
But the matter has taken a new turn. His family is now begging her to drop the charges. His mother, in particular, keeps coming to her house with gifts — vegetables, farm products, and more. Even when she says no, the woman insists on leaving the gifts.
Now, the young lady says she feels confused and afraid. “That guy scares me,” she said. “Now I am really confused.”
This situation is one that too many women know too well. Being kind is not an invitation. Saying “No” should be enough. But sometimes, it is not, and people like this man cross the line, making others feel unsafe and threatened.
Many people believe that dropping the case might not be the best option. A person who has shown such behaviour before can do it again. This is not just about love or rejection — it is about safety, respect, and boundaries.
The young lady is asking for advice, and many people are already showing support. Some say, “Please do not drop the case. Protect yourself.” Others believe the man needs to learn that actions have consequences.
Her story is a painful reminder that when someone says “No,” it must be respected. No one should be forced to live in fear just because they rejected someone. Let this serve as a warning to those who think persistence is romantic when in reality, it is harassment.
The photo used with this report is unrelated to the story but helps to express the pain and seriousness of what this young woman has gone through.
If you were in her shoes, what would you do?
